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In tantrism, the sexual intercourse is approached with awareness, ransfigurationand continence, the direct perception is the source of pleasure and voluptuousness. To fully live the perceptions, to be aware of them and to perfectly control them is the fundamental tantric key that opens the gate to the alchemic art of the sensual, spiritual love...
MYSTERIES OF TANTRA
Techniques for Getting a Strong Erection
Many people, both men and women consider that a man's manhood lies his erection, with all the qualities it requires, such as toughness, duration, etc.
Usually, the erection appears during foreplay or while the man awaits the sexual intercourse. However, the tensions, age, and other psychic factors make it difficult sometimes to have an erection.
Therefore, we introduce to you the causes that generate this fact and the possibilities to fight it, according to the oriental art of lovemaking.
First, it is highly recommendable that after the man has had an orgasm(preferably without ejaculation) he does not hurry towards a new erection. The process of gaining another erection should be slow, and lacking any kind of stress, with the help of the woman.
The union of the two lovers through the sexual act performed with sexual continence makes it imperious the fulfillment of two apparently opposing conditions: on one hand, maintaining a strong erection, which supposes an intense erotic stimulation, and on the other hand avoiding ejaculation precisely because of this intense stimulation.
In order to "live" with both these conditions, we have to know that the sexual play depends on three distinct nervous groups:
It is equally important that we know a few aspects connected to the phenomenon of the erection: there are two fundamental types of erections:
However, excepting some very rare and exceptional cases, every night, every man has at least five full erections, since his adolescence.
The German researchers quoted by doctor Sherman J. Siber in his book: "The Male", have studied great numbers of men in their sleep and determined that a man's penis gets tough for 25 minutes at an interval of 84 minutes, during an Rapid Eye Movement phase, consequently during a dream.
If the subject is awakened, he remembers the content of his dream. Moreover, it has been proven that the nocturnal erections are not connected to the content of the dream, which most of the times had nothing erotic about it.
Thus, with some "erectile" math we realize that by the age of 75, an average penis was "up" 33.000 hours - this is about four years, four months, four weeks, leaving aside the leap years.
Knowing the fact that the erection depends on the parasympathetic nervous system, whose role is also to slow the breath and heartbeats, as well as to dilate the blood vessels, and that the ejaculation depends on the sympathetic nervous system, one may easily notice that impotence and premature ejaculation have one thing in common: the over-excitation of the sympathetic nervous system due to anxiety.
Here's a classic situation: the man meets a new partner whom he desires greatly. The thinks fearful: "if only I were up to the task". The fear of a humiliating failure is over-exciting his sympathetic nervous system.
The result: his heart beats like crazy, the breath is rapid and superficial, processes that inhibit the action of his "opponent", the parasympathetic nervous system, in charge with the erection.
Then, despite all the efforts of the disconcerted seducer, the result will be totally disappointing. Alternatively, maybe even worse, he will ejaculate before entering the woman.
The experimented woman may save the day calming and helping her partner relax. Once his sympathetic nervous system relaxed the breath deep and regular, the parasympathetic system takes over and will open the gates towards the erotic paradise.
Let us turn our attention towards the ejaculatory process again. Premature or not, the ejaculation depends on the sympathetic nervous system, which warns the seminal glands to prepare for the seminal expulsion.
One movement and the sympathetic system will determine the powerful contractions form the base of the penis, which in its turn determines the ejaculation, an irreversible process.
In conclusion: in order to overcome impotence, we have to manage and calm our sympathetic nervous system. In order to control the erection and prevent ejaculation, we have to stimulate the parasympathetic nervous system.
WHICH ARE THE PRACTICAL METHODS?
This respiratory pattern should be constant during the sexual act, beginning with the foreplay. The man gains insight stays calm, serene and his reward is a full-bodied erection, and a satisfied woman.
Moreover, in order to avoid the sympathetic system to become over-excited, it is highly important that the movements of the two lovers are smooth, and the man adapts to the rhythm of his lover. Avoid all sudden movements, smile and maintain a relaxed atmosphere.
Finally, far from losing his potency with age, the man who practices sexual continence gains strength and resistance.
The preserving of the sperm enhances the libido, and the man will not get to find out the progression erosion of his sexual power - a constant worry of any man over 40 years old.
The young man "compensates" the loss of energy through ejaculation through a faster "recharge". At a young age, the man has to wait only a few minutes before he is ready to take over again.
Later, while he advances in age, he has to wait up to several hours until he is ready for a new experience.
However, in compensation to the patience, the years that pass bring to each man, even to those who ejaculate, a sexual maturity which makes them appreciated lovers.
Consequently, is the "quick" erection such a great asset? The "aged" lover may wait a little longer, but instead he can carry on making love for a longer period, making him more desirable than the young and unexperienced man, who finishes before he started.
Let us now dwell upon the sexual "erosion" that comes around with age. The cause is the terrible waste of sperm that fatally occurs with the years.
On the contrary, by preserving your sexual energy through the practice of sexual continence you will be always youthful and full of energy. The frequent ejaculations shorten the man's orgasms.
While in his 20's, a man could "throw" away his sperm at about half of meter, distance that dramatically decreases with age due to the frequent ejaculations.
In order to avoid these unpleasant aspects there is only one solution - to avoid wasting the sperm. The man as sexual animal is an exception and does not stand comparison to other mammals.
Nonetheless, we should mention the fact that the animals themselves copulate only in short periods for reproduction purposes, and that the males may spend months without intercourse.
This may explain the progressive exhaustion of the sexual energy. The tantric and Taoist teachings indicate also the fact that the waste of sperm exhausts the virility and is the main cause for premature sexual senility.
Seminal retention allows a rich sexual life, including several intimate contacts a day, and preserves the biological youth of the practitioner.
It is enough to practice the seminal retention for only one week or two in order to be able to notice the sexual tonus coming back to your best shape.
The principal objection to seminal retention is that the testicles produce spermatozoids continuously regardless of the number of ejaculations. This is true.
However, when the ejaculations are too close in time, the spermatozoids are less numerous and the sperm contains a number of immature gametes, indicating the fact that the testicles have to work extra and the pressure on them is greater than it would normally be.
However, the men that have been practicing sexual continence for decades are a living proof of the fact that it does not imply any risk for one's health, but only benefits.
THE ERECTION - THE STARTING POINT IN LOVEMAKING
It is important that we underline the following aspects:
It is important that we understand that the erection may be triggered more easily if before intercourse you will perform a relaxation of the whole body, insisting on the erogenous-sexual areas.
In the following, we will introduce you to a series of exercises whose objectives are:
This is a basic technique for controlling the sexual energy and getting a hard erection.
This technique involves the anal muscles, both internal and external, as well as the "lifting" muscles, situated in the interior of the body. If you are in a state of semi-erection, you may easily observe the effect of those contractions.
Through the action of the "lifting" muscle, the penis may respond to the contractions of the woman's vagina and this secret language may enrich the couple's life with new voluptuous sensations.
Mula Bandha is an exercise that you could practice anywhere, anytime and in any position: sitting, lying, or even while doing the headstand or other yoga postures.
In the beginning, we will act on the whole pelvic area while contracting these muscles, but in time we will be able to distinguish between the anal muscles and the penile ones.
We will be able to contract them individually, in order to become capable of relaxing them at will. During an ejaculation, you may observe the ejaculatory spasm propagating and helping you to locate the muscles responsible for ejaculation.
One of the most efficient procedures in controlling ejaculation is to relax the sexual muscles when you are close to ejaculation. Learn to relax the muscular complex of the pelvic floor in any position you may be.
In order to do this, breathe calmly, relax the pelvic muscles, the anal muscles, and the rest of the muscles in the area. Take your time to relax completely, even if in the beginning this may take some minutes.
In time you will be able to relax more quickly, almost instantaneously - fact that will prove a real help during intercourse because it will help you avoid ejaculation.
In order to practice contract these muscles to the maximum while having a strong erection. Then relax these muscles, contract again for a few seconds and relax again.
If you insist on the relaxation, the erection weakens and eventually disappears. In the beginning do this exercise while you stand still, but in time, you will get to perform this exercise during intercourse.
When you get close to the point of non-return, you may easily notice an acceleration of the breath, which leads to a stronger tension of the pelvic muscles.
If you allow this breath to go on, you will soon reach ejaculation, but if you control it at this point, you will also control the ejaculatory process.
Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, a tantric spiritual master wrote: "when the man is anxious, he reaches ejaculation quickly. When he is not anxious, the ejaculation may be delayed for hours or even days, especially now that it is no longer necessary.
Two lovers who are united by a deep love may give strength to one another and thus ejaculation is no longer necessary. The two lovers may carry on making love years on end, without exhausting their energies. They get to relax in the other. Their bodies contract and then relax.
Eventually, sex will cease being the base of the excitation, as it is now, and it will become the jumping board in order to attain the spiritual, a veritable and lasting conquest.
Nevertheless, this is possible only if you surrender yourselves to the vital energy within each of you. Then and only then will you be able to abandon yourselves to love."
In his "Introduction to Tantric Buddhism", S.B.Dasgupta notes: "according to the adepts of Vajrayana and Sahajayana, the pleasure caused by ejaculation is highly inferior in both quality and intensity to the bliss that comes about through the seminal retention, stopping the descendant movement of the sperm and making it take an upright direction.
This ascension makes it "flow" to the lotus situated in the crown of the head and stay there. The bliss obtained through the sublimation of the sexual energy is named MAHA SUKHA (great bliss or great pleasure)."
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